Halocho #1016 - Honoring Parents and other family members

Honoring parents includes feeding them, clothing and covering them as well as accompanying them. 

All the above must be done cheerfully - as the attitude counts more than the actions; one gets punished for being dour around ones parents even if one treats them with delicacies.

One may not sit nor stand in ones parents designated place in shul or at home or anywhere else where they may have a designated place. 

One may not contradict one's parents. One may not approve of one's parents in their presence (e.g. I see your point) as this indicates that one would have the ability to say otherwise. 

Even if parents insult one in public one may not upset them, though one may take legal action to recuperate any monetary loss they caused.

A person must honor his grandparents, as well as his father's wife and his mother's husband, his father-in-law and his mother-in-law.

A person must honor his older brother; even if he's a half-brother.
Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 142:1, 143:3, 19,20

- Danny,
Tuesday, 19 Tevet 5773

Halocho # 509 - Honoring other family members

A person must honor his father's wife and his mother's husband.

A person must honor his father-in-law and his mother-in-law.

A person must honor his grandparents, though his parents' honor has priority.

A person must honor his older brother; even if he's a half-brother.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:19-20

- Danny
Sunday, 23 Shvat 5770

Halocho #350 - Respecting Torah authority

In Parshat Korach (the Torah Reading this week in Israel, next week in the Diaspora) we learn about the bitter end of people who argue with Torah authorities.

A person has to respect and honor his Rav - his Torah teacher - more than his parents; his parents look after his needs in this world and his Rav is ensuring him a good place in Olam Habah (Heaven).

Degrading a Torah scholar is so severe that a person can loose his place in Olam Habah (Heaven) for it.

One needs to stand up when ones Rav enters the room.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 144:1, 4, 5

- Danny Wednesday, 25 Sivan 5769

Please daven for a complete recovery for: Refael Menashe Koppel ben Naomi. He is a baby in a coma suffering from Encephalitis.

Halocho #270 - Honoring grandparents

The Ten Commandments were in yesterday's Torah reading. Included in honoring ones mother and father is the Mitzva to honor ones grandparents. However, honoring ones parents take precedence over ones grandparents. Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:20 - Danny Sunday, 21 Shvat 5769

Please daven for a complete recovery for my wife's grandmother Rachel-Leah bat Chaya-Sarah - רחל לאה בת חיה שרה

Halocho #268 - Honoring step-parents

The Ten Commandments are in this week's Torah reading.

Included in honoring ones mother and father is the Mitzva to honor ones father's wife and ones mother's husband even if they not ones parents.

It's is appropriate to honor step-parents even after ones parents are no longer alive.

However, honoring ones parents take precedence over honoring ones step-parents.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:19

- Danny Wednesday, 17 Shvat 5769

Please daven for a complete recovery for Rachel-Leah bat Chaya-Sarah - רחל לאה בת חיה שרה

Halocho #267 - Honoring the in-laws

The Ten Commandments are in this week's Torah reading. Included in honoring ones mother and father is the Mitzva to honor ones father on law and ones mother in law. However, ones parents take precedence over ones in-laws. Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:20 - Danny Tuesday, 16 Shvat 5769

Please daven for a complete recovery for David Farhad ben Rachel Pari

Halocho #33 – Cohen gets preferential treatment

A Talmid Chacham has preference over a Cohen. Everybody else needs to give preference to the Cohen; he gets called first to the Torah, gets to speak first at functions, at meals gets served first and leads the Zimun. In a business partnership a Cohen does not get preferential treatment. One may not use a Cohen to run ones errands or do other mundane tasks, unless the Cohen has agreed to relinquish his Cohen status for this purpose. Source: Kitzur SA 144:8-9 To clarify: A Cohen always gets called to the Torah first, so as to prevent the unpleasantness of people arguing as to whether a specific person is a Talmid Chacham worthy of displacing the Cohen or not.

Halocho #32 - Honoring the elderly

One must stand up for a Torah Scholar even if he's young. One must stand up for people over seventy even if they're not Torah Scholars, so long as they're not wicked. Even non-Jews over 70 deserve some show of respect. Source: KSA 144: 2

Halocho #30 – Honoring other family members

A person must honor his father's wife and his mother's husband. A person must honor his father-in-law and his mother-in-law. A person must honor his grandparents, though his parents' honor has priority. A person must honor his older brother; even if he's a half-brother. Source: KSA 143:19-20

סעיף יט - חייב אדם לכבד אשת אביו אף על פי שאינה אמו כל זמן שאביו קיים. וכן חייב לכבד בעל אמו כל זמן שאמו קיימת, ודבר הגון הוא לכבדם גם לאחר מיתת אביו ואמו. סעיף כ - חייב אדם בכבוד אחיו הגדול ממנו בין שהוא אחיו מן האב בין מן האם, וחייב אדם בכבוד חמיו וחמותו (כדמצינו בדוד המלך עליו השלום שחלק כבוד לשאול המלך שהיה חמיו קראו אבי, שאמר לו אבי ראה גם ראה) וחייב בכבוד אבי אביו, אלא שכבוד אביו גדול מכבוד אבי אביו.

This is based on the 5th of the Ten Commandments

Halocho #29 – Respecting parents

If your mother requests something be done and your father then asks "who asked you to do this?" and giving the correct answer will cause animosity between parents, then you should not blame your mother, even if this causes your father to be angry at you. One is obligated to stand when either parent enters the room. Source KSA: 143: 6 – 7.

סעיף ו - אמרה לו אמו: עשה זאת, ועשה, ואחר כך בא אביו ושאל אותו: מי אמר לך לעשות זאת, והוא מרגיש שאם יאמר שאמו אמרה לו יכעוס אביו על אמו, אל יאמר לו שאמו אמרה לו לעשות הדבר, אף על פי שעל ידי כן יכעוס האב עליו. סעיף ז - חייב לעמוד בפני אביו ובפני אמו.

Halocho #26 - Waking ones parents

One may not wake up ones parents even if it is going to cause one a major monetary loss. However if ones parents are going to suffer a monetary loss and they will be distressed over the loss then one must wake them. So too one should wake them for in time for prayers or for any other mitzva. Source: KSA 143:4

סעיף ד - היה אביו או אמו ישנים ומפתח חנותו של הבן תחת ראשיהם אסור להקיצם משנתם אף על פי שיפסיד ריוח הרבה, אבל אם יגיע ריוח לאביו אם יקיצו, ואם לא יקיצו יצטער על מניעת הריוח, מצוה להקיצו כיון שישמח בזה, וכן מצוה להקיצו ללכת לבית הכנסת או לשאר דבר מצוה, מפני שכולם חייבים בכבוד המקום ברוך הוא.

Halocho #24 - Honoring Parents

Honoring parents includes feeding them, clothing and covering them as well as accompanying them. All the above must be done cheerfully - as the attitude counts more than the actions; one gets punished for being dour around ones parents even if one treats them with delicacies. Source KSA 143:3

סעיף ג איזהו כבוד, מאכילו ומשקהו, מלביש ומכסה, מכניס ומוציא, ויתננו לו בסבר פנים יפות. שאפילו מאכילתו בכל יום פטומות, והראה לו פנים זועפים, נענש עליו.

Halocho #23 – Respecting parents

One may not sit nor stand in ones parents designated place in shul or at home or anywhere else where they may have a designated place. One may not contradict ones parents. One may not approve of one's parents in their presence (e.g. I see your point) as this indicates that one would have the ability to say otherwise. Even if parents insult one in public one may not upset them, though one may take legal action to recuperate any monetary loss they caused. Source: KSA 142:1

סעיף א צריך ליזהר מאד בכבוד אביו ואמו ובמוראם. שהשוה אותן הכתוב לכבודו ולמוראו יתברך שמו, כתיב כבד את אביך ואת אמך וכתיב כבד את ה' מהונך. באביו ואמו כתיב איש אמו ואביו תיראו, וכתיב את ה' אלהיך תירא, כדרך שצוה על כבוד שמו הגדול ומוראו כן צוה על כבודם ומוראם. שלשה שותפין הן באדם הקדוש ברוך הוא, אביו, ואמו. (איש מזריע לובן שבו, אשה מזרעת אודם שבו, והקדוש ברוך הוא נפח בו נשמה, מראה עין, ושמיעת אוזן, ודיבור). בזמן שאדם מכבד את אביו ואת אמו, אמר הקדוש ברוך הוא מעלה אני עליהם כאלו דרתי ביניהם וכבדוני.