Halocho #2423 - The Kotel is in our hands

The Kotel ("Wailing wall") is the Western retaining wall of the Temple Mount where the Bet HaMikdash (Temple) stood until it was destroyed over 1,900 years ago.

The Kotel "plaza" is outside the Temple Mount. Every prayer of ours - Amida and Birkat HaMazon - includes a supplication to once again be able to serve Hashem on the other side of the Kotel; from inside the rebuilt Bet HaMikdash.

When seeing the place where the Bet HaMikdash stood, one needs to do Kri'a; tear one's clothes in the same way that mourners do.

One only needs to tear Kri'a if one hasn't been in Jerusalem for 30 days or longer.

Source Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 561

 הָרוֹאֶה אֶת יְרוּשָׁלַיִם בְּחֻרְבָּנָהּ, אוֹמֵר: צִיּוֹן הָיְתָה מִדְבַּר שְׁמָמָה וְקוֹרֵע; 

וּכְשֶׁרוֹאֶה בֵּית הַמִּקְדָּשׁ, אוֹמֵר: בֵּית קָדְשֵׁנוּ וְתִפְאַרְתֵּנוּ אֲשֶׁר הִלְלוּךָ (בּוֹ) אֲבוֹתֵינוּ הָיָה לִשְׂרֵפַת אֵשׁ וְכָל מַחְמָדֵנוּ הָיָה לְחָרְבָּה, וְקוֹרֵעַ. 

וּמֵהֵיכָן חַיָּב לִקְרֹעַ? מִן הַצּוֹפִים; וְאַחַר כָּךְ כְּשֶׁיִּרְאֶה הַמִּקְדָּשׁ קוֹרֵעַ קֶרַע אַחֵר, 

וְכָל קְרִיעָה טֶפַח.

כָּל הַקְּרָעִים הָאֵלּוּ בְּיָדוֹ וּמְעֻמָּד, וְקוֹרֵעַ כָּל כְּסוּתוֹ שֶׁעָלָיו עַד שֶׁיְּגַלֶּה אֶת לִבּוֹ, 

וְאֵינוֹ מְאַחֶה קְרָעִים אֵלּוּ לְעוֹלָם; אֲבָל רַשַּׁאי לְשָׁלְלָן, לְמָלְלָן, לְלַקְּטָן וּלְתָפְרָן כְּמִין סֻלָּמוֹת.

הָיָה הוֹלֵךְ וּבָא לִירוּשָׁלַיִם, הוֹלֵךְ וּבָא תּוֹךְ ל' יוֹם, אֵינוֹ קוֹרֵעַ קֶרַע אַחֵר; 

וְאִם לְאַחַר ל' יוֹם, חוֹזֵר וְקוֹרֵעַ וְהוּא הַדִּין בְּעָרֵי יְהוּדָה וּבַמִּקְדָּשׁ.

The prevalent Yerushalmi custom is not to tear Kri'a on those days when one doesn't say Tachanun, including Friday afternoons.

- Danny Schoemann

Wednesday, 28 Iyar 5784 - Yom Yerushalayim - 43rd day of the Omer

Please daven for the full recovery of the seriously wounded soldier:

מֹשֶׁה אַהֲרֹן בֶּן לֵאָה בֵּילָא לרפואה שלמה 

Halocho #2414 - Are haircuts allowed tomorrow?

Lag B'Omer - the 33rd day of the Omer - will be on Sunday. No Tachanun is said on Sunday, and צִדְקָתְךָ צֶדֶק is not said on Shabbat at Mincha.

One may have haircuts on Friday (tomorrow) already, in honor of Shabbat.

All other customs of mourning are to be observed until the morning of Lag B'Omer.

Those who have the custom to mourn from Rosh Chodesh Iyar, resume the mourning customs after Lag B'Omer. 

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 120:6, 7

בְיוֹם ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר, וְכֵן מִשָּׁם וָאֵילֵךְ מַתִּירִין, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁבְּיוֹם ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר פָּסְקוּ מִלָּמוּת, וְלָכֵן מַרְבִּים בּוֹ קְצָת שִׂמְחָה, וְאֵין אוֹמְרִים בּוֹ תַּחֲנוּן. וְאַף שֶׁגַּם בּוֹ בַּיּוֹם מֵתוּ קְצָת, אָמְרִינָן מִקְּצָת הַיּוֹם כְּכֻלּוֹ, וְלָכֵן אֵין לְהִסְתַּפֵּר אוֹ לִשָֹּא עַד לְאַחַר שֶׁהֵאִיר הַיּוֹם, וְלֹא מִבָּעֶרֶב. אַךְ כְּשֶׁחַל ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר בְּיוֹם רִאשׁוֹן, מִסְתַּפְרִין בְּעֶרֶב שַׁבָּת שֶׁלְּפָנָיו, לִכְבוֹד הַשַׁבָּת.

Note: Many Sefardim only stop the mourning on the 34th day of the Omer and don't allow haircuts on Friday.

Shabbat Shalom

- Danny

Thursday, 15 Iyar 5784 - 30th day of the Omer

Please daven for the full recovery of the seriously wounded soldier 

מֹשֶׁה אַהֲרֹן בֶּן לֵאָה בֵּילָא לרפואה שלמה

Halocho #2401 - Mourning during the Omer

During the Omer period, the great sage Rabbi Akiva (who lived during and after the destruction of the second Temple) lost almost all of his thousands of Torah students; reducing Torah Scholars to a handful.

As a result, 33 days of the Omer are customarily observed as days of mourning, during which weddings and haircuts are forbidden.

One may get engaged during the Omer and even celebrate with a meal, but dancing and music are not allowed.

The Sandek, Mohel and father of the newborn may take haircuts the afternoon before the Brit.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 120:6 - 9

בִּימֵי הַסְּפִירָה מֵתוּ תַּלְמִידֵי רַבִּי עֲקִיבָא בְּל"ג יוֹם, וְלָכֵן נוֹהֲגִין בְּיָמִים אֵלּוּ קְצָת אֲבֵלוּת, שֶׁאֵין נוֹשְׂאִין נָשִׁים וְאֵין מִסְתַּפְּרִים.

הַסַּנְדָּק (הוּא הַתּוֹפֵס אֶת הַתִּינוֹק בִּשְׁעַת מִילָה) וְהַמּוֹהֵל, וַאֲבִי הַבֵּן, מֻתָּרִין לְהִסְתַּפֵּר בְּיּוֹם שֶׁלִּפְנֵי הַמִּילָה סָמוּךְ לָעֶרֶב קֹדֶם הֲלִיכָה לְבֵית הַכְּנֶסֶת.

לַעֲשׂוֹת שִׁדּוּכִין אֲפִלּוּ בַּסְּעוּדָּה, מֻתָּרִין בְּכָל הַיָּמִים. אַךְ רִקּוּדִין וּמְחוֹלוֹת, אֲסוּרִין.

- Danny

Monday, 28 Nissan 5784 - 13th day of the Omer

 Please daven for the full recovery of the seriously wounded soldier

 מֹשֶׁה אַהֲרֹן בֶּן לֵאָה בֵּילָא לרפואה שלמה

Halocho #2372 - Yahrzeit of our teacher Moses; Moshe Rabeinu

According to most opinions, 7 Adar is the Yahrzeit of our teacher Moses - Moshe Rabeinu. 

Many Jewish Burial Societies [Chevra Kadisha] have their annual meeting on that day, including fasting and special prayers.

During leap years the Yahrzeit for somebody who passed away in a regular year is observed in the first Adar, and Kaddish is said again (if possible) during the second Adar.

Halachot related to Moshe Rabeinu:

When babies start talking one should teach them the verse "תּוֹרָה צִוָּה-לָנוּ, משֶׁה. מוֹרָשָׁה, קְהִלַּת יַעֲקב" and Shma Yisrael...", after ensuring that they are clean while being taught.

Moshe Rabeinu went up to Har-Sinai to get the 2nd set of Luchot on a Thursday and came down on a Monday, which is why these 2 days are auspicious for praying - and we therefore add the long "Vehu Rachum" prayer before Tachanun on these 2 days.

There's a limit as to how long one may mourn a deceased - but even for a great Torah scholar one may not mourn longer than 30 days, as nobody can be greater than our teacher Moshe for whom it is stated "and they mourned Moshe for 30 days".

Sources: Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 218:2, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 165:10, 22:9, 215:1, 221:3

אֵלּוּ הַיָּמִים שֶׁאֵרְעוּ בָּהֶם צָרוֹת לַאֲבוֹתֵינוּ וְרָאוּי לְהִתְעַנּוֹת בָּהֶם...בְּז' בַּאֲדָר מֵת מֹשֶׁה רַבֵּנוּ ע''ה.

מִיָד כְּשֶׁהַתִּינוֹק מַתְחִיל לְדַבֵּר, יְלַמְּדוֹ הַפָּסוּק תּוֹרָה צִוָּה לָנוּ משֶׁה מוֹרָשָׁה וְגוֹ', וְכֵן פָּסוּק שְׁמַע יִשְֹרָאֵל וְגוֹ' (רַק יִזָּהֵר מְאֹד שֶׁיְהֵא הַתִּינוֹק נָקִי בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁהוּא מְלַמֵּד אוֹתוֹ)

בְּשֵׁנִי וּבַחֲמִשִּׁי לְפִי שֶׁהֵם יְמֵי רָצוֹן, כִּי בְּאַרְבָּעִים יוֹם שֶׁל קַבָּלַת לוּחוֹת שְׁנִיּוֹת, עָלָה מֹשֶׁה רַבֵּנוּ בְּיוֹם ה', וְיָרַד בְּיוֹם בּ', לָכֵן מַרְבִּים בָּהֶם תַּחֲנוּנִים.

אֵין בּוֹכִין עָלָיו יוֹתֵר מִשְּׁלשִׁים יוֹם, דְּלָא עָדִיף מִמּשֶׁה רַבֵּנוּ, עָלָיו הַשָּׁלוֹם, דִּכְתִיב בּוֹ, וַיִבְכּוּ בְנֵי יִשְֹרָאֵל אֶת משֶׁה וְגוֹ'. שְׁלֹשִׁים יוֹם.

וְאִם מֵת בְּשָׁנָה פְשׁוּטָה, אֲזַי בְּשָׁנָה מְעֻבֶּרֶת, יִתְעַנֶּה בַּאֲדָר רִאשׁוֹן, וְגַם בַּאֲדָר שֵׁנִי יֹאמַר קַדִּישׁ, אַךְ אַל יַסִּיג גְּבוּל אֲחֵרִים.

- Danny Schoemann

Sunday, 7 Adar-2 5784

Please daven for the full recovery of the seriously wounded soldier

מֹשֶׁה אַהֲרֹן בֶּן לֵאָה בֵּיילָא

לרפואה שלמה

Halocho #2371 - Purim gifts for your friends

One of the Mitzvot of Purim is Mishlo’ach Manot; sending at least two food items to one fellow Jew.

These 2 food items need to be ready to eat. For example fruit, wine, cake or cooked meat.

It’s commendable to send Mishlo’ach Manot to a lot of people, but it’s even better to spend more on Matanot La'Evyonim for the poor and needy.

Both men and women need to send Mishlo’ach Manot. Men should send to men, women should send to women.

A mourner (in the 12 months for parents or 30 days for siblings, spouse or child) also needs to send Mishlo’ach Manot. One does not send Mishlo’ach Manot to a mourner unless there are no other Jews around.

One may give Matanot La'Evyonim to a needy mourner.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 142:1, 2, 4, 7

חַיָב כָּל אָדָם לִשְׁלוֹחַ לְכָל הַפָּחוֹת לְאָדָם אֶחָד שְׁתֵּי מָנוֹת, דִּכְתִיב, וּמִשְׁלוֹחַ מָנוֹת אִישׁ לְרֵעֵהוּ, מַשְׁמַע שְׁתֵּי מַתָּנוֹת לָאֶחָד. וְכָל הַמַּרְבֶּה לִשְׁלוֹחַ מָנוֹת לְרֵעִים, הֲרֵי זֶה מְשֻׁבָּח.

 וּמִכָּל מָקוֹם מוּטָב לְהַרְבּוֹת בְּמַתָּנוֹת לָאֶבְיוֹנִים מִלְּהַרְבּוֹת בִּסְעוּדָּתוֹ וּבְמִשְׁלוֹחַ מָנוֹת לְרֵעִים, כִּי אֵין שִׂמְחָה גְּדוֹלָה וּמְפֹאֶרֶת לִפְנֵי הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא אֶלָּא לְשַׂמֵחַ לֵב עֲנִיִים וִיתוֹמִים וְאַלְמָנוֹת. וְהַמְשַׂמֵחַ לֵב הָאֻמְלָלִים הָאֵלּוּ, דּוֹמֶה לַשְּׁכִינָה, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר, לְהַחֲיוֹת רוּחַ שְׁפָלִים וּלְהַחֲיוֹת לֵב נִדְכָּאִים.

לֹא נִקְרָא מָנוֹת אֶלָּא דָּבָר שֶׁרָאוּי לֶאֱכוֹל כְּמוֹת שֶׁהוּא בְּלִי תִקּוּן, כְּגוֹן בָּשָׂר וְדָגִים מְבֻשָּׁלִים וְלֹא חַיִּים, אוֹ מִינֵי מְתִיקָה אוֹ פֵרוֹת, אוֹ כּוֹס יַיִן וּמֵי דְבַשׁ וְכַיוֹצֵא בָהֶם.

גַּם הַנָּשִׁים חַיָבוֹת בְּמִשְׁלוֹחַ מָנוֹת וּמַתָּנוֹת לָאֶבְיוֹנִים. מִשְׁלוֹחַ מָנוֹת, תִּשְׁלַח אִשָּׁה לְאִשָּׁה וְאִישׁ לָאִישׁ.

הָאָבֵל, אֲפִלּוּ תּוֹךְ שִׁבְעָה, חַיָב בְּמַתָּנוֹת לָאֶבְיוֹנִים, וְגַם לִשְׁלוֹחַ מָנוֹת לְרֵעֵהוּ. וּמִכָּל מָקוֹם לֹא יִשְׁלַח דָּבָר שֶׁל שִׂמְחָה. 

אֲבָל לָאָבֵל, אֵין שׁוֹלְחִין מָנוֹת כָּל שְׁנֵים עָשָׂר חֹדֶשׁ, אֲפִלּוּ דָבָר שֶׁאֵינוֹ שֶל שִׂמְחָה. 

אִם הוּא עָנִי, מֻתָּר לִשְׁלוֹחַ לוֹ מָעוֹת אוֹ שְׁאָר דָּבָר שֶׁאֵינוֹ שֶׁל שִׂמְחָה. 

וְאִם אֵין בַּמָּקוֹם הַהוּא רַק הָאָבֵל עִם אַחֵר, חַיָב לִשְׁלוֹחַ לוֹ, כְּדֵי לְקַיֵם מִצְוַת מִשְׁלוֹחַ מָנוֹת.

Shabbat Shalom,

- Danny Schoemann
Thursday, 4 Adar-2 5784

Please daven for the full recovery of the seriously wounded soldier

מֹשֶׁה אַהֲרֹן בֶּן לֵאָה בֵּיילָא

לרפואה שלמה

Halocho #2370 - Mourning the Beit HaMikdash in Adar

The second Beit HaMikdash was dedicated today - 3 Adar - some 2370 years ago. (Ezra 6:15)

וְשֵׁיצִיא בַּיְתָה דְנָה עַד יוֹם תְּלָתָה לִירַח אֲדָר דִּי הִיא שְׁנַת שֵׁת לְמַלְכוּת דָּרְיָוֶשׁ מַלְכָּא
ונשלם בית זה עד יום שלישי לירח אֲדָר בשנת שש למלכות דָּרְיָוֶשׁ המלך : (רלב"ג)

After the destruction of the Temple, Chazal (the Sages of blessed memory) instituted that at all joyous occasions we remember the destruction, including.

• At festive meals, one should leave out one serving dish.
• A woman should not wear all her jewelry at the same time.
• At the engagement a plate is broken - though it should be a damaged plate.
• At the wedding, a glass cup is broken.
• The bride's veil shouldn't have gold or silver threads.
• The groom has ashes placed on his hair (where he places his Tefillin) before the wedding.

This way we fulfill the verse "If I forget you, O Jerusalem... if I do not set Jerusalem above the zenith of my joy." (Psalms 137:6-7)

אִם אֶשְׁכָּחֵךְ יְרוּשָׁלִָם ... אִם לֹא אַעֲלֶה אֶת יְרוּשָׁלִַם עַל רֹאשׁ שִׂמְחָתִי:

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 126:1-2

מִשֶּׁחָרַב בֵּית הַמִּקְדָּשׁ תִּקְּנוּ חֲכָמֵינוּ זִכְרוֹנָם לִבְרָכָה שֶׁבְּכָל שִׂמְחָה יְהֵא בָּהּ זֵכֶר לַחֻרְבָּן, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב, אִם אֶשְׁכָּחֵךְ יְרוּשָׁלַיִם וְגוֹ' אִם לֹא אַעֲלֶה אֶת יְרוּשָׁלַיִם עַל רֹאשׁ שִׂמְחָתִי. 

וְגָזְרוּ שֶׁלֹּא יִבְנֶה לוֹ יִשְֹרָאֵל בִּנְיָן מְסֻיָּד וּמְצֻיָּר כְּבִנְיָן הַמְּלָכִים. וְלֹא יְסַיֵּד אֶת כָּל בֵּיתוֹ בְּסִיד, אֶלָּא טָח בֵּיתוֹ בְּטִיט וְסָד בְּסִיד, וּמַנִּיחַ בּוֹ אַמָּה עַל אַמָּה כְּנֶגֶד הַפֶּתַח בְּלֹא סִיד, כְּדֵי לִזְכֹּר הַחֻרְבָּן. וּמַה שֶׁלֹּא נָהֲגוּ כֵן עַתָּה, לֹא יָדַעְנוּ טַעַם בָּרוּר.

וְכֵן תִּקְּנוּ שֶׁהָעוֹרֵךְ שֻׁלְחָן לַעֲשׂוֹת סְעוּדָה לְאוֹרְחִים, אֲפִלּוּ סְעוּדַת מִצְוָה, לֹא יִתֵּן כָּל הַתַּבְשִׁילִין הָרְאוּיִין לַסְּעוּדָה, וְכֵן הָאִשָּׁה לֹא תִּתְקַשֵּׁט בְּכָל תַּכְשִׁיטֶיהָ בְּפַעַם אֶחָת. וְהֶחָתָן קֹדֶם חֻפָּתוֹ, נוֹתְנִים אֵפֶר עַל רֹאשׁוֹ בִּמְקוֹם הַנָּחַת תְּפִלִּין. 

הַמִּכְסֶה שֶׁמְכַסִּים בָּהּ אֶת הַכַּלָּה, לֹא יִהְיוּ בוֹ חוּטֵי כֶסֶף אוֹ זָהָב. גַּם נוֹהֲגִין שֶׁבִּשְׁעַת כְּתִיבַת הַתְּנָאִין, אַחַר קְרִיאָתָן, שׁוֹבְרִין קְדֵרָה לַעֲשׂוֹת זֵכֶר לַחֻרְבָּן, אֲבָל יֵשׁ לִקַּח קְדֵרָה שְׁבוּרָה. וְתַחַת הַחֻפָּה שׁוֹבֵר הֶחָתָן כְּלִי זְכוּכִית, וְזֶה יָכוֹל לִהְיוֹת כּוֹס שָׁלֵם.

וְכֵן גָּזְרוּ שֶׁלֹּא לִשְׁמוֹעַ שׁוּם כְּלֵי שִׁיר, וַאֲפִלּוּ שִׁיר בַּפֶּה. וְאֵין לְשׁוֹרֵר בַּסְּעוּדָה אֶלָּא הַזְּמִירוֹת שֶׁנִּתְקְנוּ, כְּמוֹ בַשַׁבָּת. אֲבָל פִּיּוּטִים אֲחֵרִים, אָסוּר לְשׁוֹרֵר.

- Danny Schoemann
Wednesday, 3 Adar-2 5784

Please daven for the full recovery of the seriously wounded soldier

מֹשֶׁה אַהֲרֹן בֶּן לֵאָה בֵּילָא

לרפואה שלמה

Halocho #1823 - Haircuts tomorrow - Erev Shabbat?

Lag B'Omer - the 33rd day of the Omer - will be on Sunday. No Tachanun is said on Sunday, and צִדְקָתְךָ צֶדֶק is not said on Shabbat at Mincha.

One may already have haircuts on Friday (tomorrow), in honor of Shabbat.
All other customs of mourning are to be observed until the morning of Lag B'Omer - Sunday morning.

Those who have the custom to mourn from Rosh Chodesh Iyar, resume the mourning customs after Lag B'Omer.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 120:6, 7

Note: Many Sephardim only stop the mourning on the 34th day of the Omer (Monday morning) and don't allow haircuts on Friday.

Shabbat Shalom
- Danny

Thursday, 15 Iyar 5777 - 30th day of the Omer

בִּימֵי הַסְּפִירָה מֵתוּ תַּלְמִידֵי רַבִּי עֲקִיבָא בְּל"ג יוֹם, וְלָכֵן נוֹהֲגִין בְּיָמִים אֵלּוּ קְצָת אֲבֵלוּת, שֶׁאֵין נוֹשְׂאִין נָשִׁים וְאֵין מִסְתַּפְּרִים. וְיֵשׁ חִלּוּקֵי מִנְהָגִים בְּמִסְפַּר ל"ג יָמִים הָאֵלֶּה, יֵשׁ מְקוֹמוֹת נוֹהֲגִין שֶׁחוֹשְׁבִין אוֹתָן מִיּוֹם רִאשׁוֹן דִּסְפִירָה, וְלָכֵן אוֹסְרִין עַד ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר. אַךְ כְּשֶׁחַל רֹאשׁ חֹדֶשׁ אִיָּר בַּשַׁבָּת, דְּיֵשׁ בּוֹ שְׁתֵּי קְדֻשּׁוֹת, קְדֻשַׁת שַׁבָּת וּקְדֻשַּׁת רֹאשׁ חֹדֶשׁ, אָז מַתִּירִין לִשָּׂא, וְכֵן לְהִסְתַּפֵּר בְּעֶרֶב שַׁבָּת

 וּבְיוֹם ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר, וְכֵן מִשָּׁם וָאֵילֵךְ מַתִּירִין, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁבְּיוֹם ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר פָּסְקוּ מִלָּמוּת, וְלָכֵן מַרְבִּים בּוֹ קְצָת שִׂמְחָה, וְאֵין אוֹמְרִים בּוֹ תַּחֲנוּן. וְאַף שֶׁגַּם בּוֹ בַּיּוֹם מֵתוּ קְצָת, אָמְרִינָן מִקְּצָת הַיּוֹם כְּכֻלּוֹ, וְלָכֵן אֵין לְהִסְתַּפֵּר אוֹ לִשָֹּא עַד לְאַחַר  שֶׁהֵאִיר הַיּוֹם, וְלֹא מִבָּעֶרֶב

 אַךְ כְּשֶׁחַל ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר בְּיוֹם רִאשׁוֹן, מִסְתַּפְרִין בְּעֶרֶב שַׁבָּת שֶׁלְּפָנָיו, לִכְבוֹד הַשַׁבָּת

וְיֵשׁ מְקוֹמוֹת שֶׁמַּתִּירִין עַד רֹאשׁ חֹדֶשׁ אִיָּר וְעַד בִּכְלָל, שֶׁהֵן שִׁשָּׁה עָשָׂר יוֹם, וְנִשְׁאָרִים ל"ג יוֹם בְּאִסּוּר עַד חַג הַשָּׁבוּעוֹת (וּמִסְתַּפְּרִין בְּעֶרֶב הָחָג). וּמִכָּל מָקוֹם בְּיוֹם ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר בְּעַצְמוֹ מַתִּירִין. (וּכְשֶׁחָל בְּיוֹם רִאשׁוֹן, מַתִּירִין בְּעֶרֶב שַׁבָּת, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתַבְתִּי לְעֵיל).

וְיֵשׁ מְקוֹמוֹת שֶׁמַּתִּירִין עַד רֹאשׁ חֹדֶשׁ אִיָּר וְלֹא עַד בִּכְלָל, וּבְיוֹם רִאשׁוֹן דְּרֹאשׁ חֹדֶשׁ מַתְחִיל הָאִסּוּר, וְיוֹם רִאשׁוֹן דְּהַגְבָּלָה הוּא יוֹם הַלּ"ג, וְאַמְרֵינָן בּוֹ, מִקְּצָת הַיּוֹם כְּכֻלּוֹ, וּמֻתָּרִין לִשָּׂא וּלְהִסְתַּפֵּר בָּהֶן, וְגַם בְּיוֹם ל"ג בָּעֹמֶר מֻתָּרִין (וּכְמוֹ שֶׁכָּתַבְתִּי לְעֵיל)

 וּצְרִיכִין לִנְהֹג בְּכָל קְהִלָּה מִנְהָג אֶחָד, וְלֹא יְשַׁנּוּ לַעֲשׂוֹת מִקְּצָתָן כָּךְ וּמִקְּצָתָן כָּךְ

Halocho #851 - Cutting nails during the 3 weeks?

One may cut one's nails during the 3 weeks, until the week in which 9 B'Av falls.

On each Shabbat of the "3 weeks" we read a Haftara in which the prophet warned about the destruction of the Bet Hamikdash.

The first week (this week) we read the first chapter of Yirmiyahu, which is the Haftara for "Matos" in most Chumashim.

The second week we read most of the second chapter of Yirmiyahu.

The third week we read the the first chapter of Yeshayahu - Chazon; most of it in the sad tune that Megilat Eicha is read.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 122:6, 5

Shabbat Shalom

- Danny
Thursday, 19 Tamuz 5771

Halocho #850 - Is all music forbidden in the 3 weeks?

The period between the fast of 17 Tammuz and the fast of 9 B'Av 3 weeks later is known as Bein Hametzarim, or "The 3 Weeks".

Since the destruction of the Bet Hamikdash (Temple) started on 17 Tammuz with the breaching of the walls, and ended 3 weeks later when it was set alight, this period of 3 weeks has been set aside as a time of mourning.

If one plays a musical instrument for a living, one may continue to do so for non-Jews until Rosh Chodesh Av.

Some have the custom of refraining from meat and wine during the entire 3 weeks, except on Shabbat and Mitzva-meals (like at a Brit Mila).

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 122:1

- Danny
Wednesday, 18 Tamuz 5771

Halocho #807 - Haircuts tomorrow

Lag B'Omer - the 33rd day of the Omer - will be on Sunday. No Tachanun is said on Sunday, and צִדְקָתְךָ צֶדֶק is not said on Shabbat at Mincha.

One may have haircuts on Friday (tomorrow) already, in honor of Shabbat.
All other customs of mourning are to be observed until the morning of Lag B'Omer.

Those who have the custom to mourn from Rosh Chodesh Iyar, resume the mourning customs after Lag B'Omer.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 120:6, 7

Note: Many Sefardim only stop the mourning on the 34th day of the Omer and don't allow haircuts on Friday.

Shabbat Shalom
- Danny

Thursday, 15 Iyar 5771 - 30th day of the Omer

Halocho #794 - Mourning during the Omer

During the Omer period, the great sage Rabbi Akiva (who lived during and after the destruction of the second Temple) lost almost all of his thousands of Torah students; reducing Torah Scholars to a handful.

As a result, 33 days of the Omer are customarily observed as days of mourning, during which weddings and haircuts are forbidden.

One may get engaged during the Omer and even celebrate with a meal, but dancing and music is not allowed.

The Sandek, Mohel and father of the newborn may take haircuts the day before the Brit.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 120:6 - 9

- Danny
Monday, 28 Nissan 5771 - 13th day of the Omer

Halocho #743 - Yahrzeit of our teacher Moses; Moshe Rabeinu

According to most opinions on 7 Adar (Friday) will be the Yahrzeit of our teacher Moses - Moshe Rabeinu.

Many Jewish Burial Societies [Chevra Kadisha] have their annual meeting that day, including fasting and special prayers.

Halachot related to Moshe Rabeinu:

When babies start talking one should teach them the verse "תּוֹרָה צִוָּה-לָנוּ, משֶׁה. מוֹרָשָׁה, קְהִלַּת יַעֲקב" and Shma Yisrael...", after ensuring that they are clean while being taught.

Moshe Rabeinu went up to Har-Sinai to get the 2nd set of tablets on a Thursday and came down on a Monday, which is why these 2 days are auspicious for praying - and we therefore add the long "Vehu Rachum" prayer before Tachanun on these 2 days.

There's a limit as to how long one may mourn a deceased - but even for a great Torah scholar one may not mourn longer than 30 days, as nobody can be greater than our teacher Moshe for whom it is stated "and they mourned Moshe for 30 days".

Sources: Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 58:2, KSA 165:10, 22:9, 215:1

- Danny
Wednesday, 5 Adar-I 5771

Halocho #706 - The Chanukah Menorah in shul

In order to publicize the miracle of Chanuka, the Menora is lit - with the correct Brachot - in the synagogue, between Mincha and Ma'ariv.

The person who lit the Menora in shul has to light again at home, with the correct Brachot.

A mourner should not light the Menora in shul on the first night of Chanuka, since it's inappropriate for him to say "Shehechiyanu" in public. At home a mourner does say "Shehechiyanu" on the first night.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 139:15

Chodesh Tov! Don't forget Ya'aleh Veyavo and Al Hanisim in the Amida and Birkat Hamazon.

- Danny
Tuesday, 1st day Rosh Chodesh Tevet, 5771

Halocho #671 - Breaking the glass cup

At an engagement party one breaks a plate, whereas under the Chuppa (wedding canopy) one breaks a glass vessel.

This is done in order to remember the destruction of Jerusalem and the Bet Hamikdash, even at the height of our joyous celebrations.

The glass cup broken under the Chuppa should be intact, whereas at the engagement one should break a damaged plate.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 126:2

- Danny
Tuesday, 11 Marchesvan 5771

Halocho #610 - May one do work on 9 B'Av?

One may do "minor" work on the fast of 9 B'Av, such as turning on lights and driving.

Any work that takes times, as well as all business dealings, should not be done until noon, so as not to get distracted from mourning the destruction of the Bet Hamikdash - the Holy Temple in Jerusalem.

While one may go to work and open ones business on 9 B'Av afternoon, it's commendable not to.

One may have a non-Jew do ones work on 9 B'Av, and one may do any work needed to prevent a monetary loss.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 124:15

- Danny
Tuesday, 2 Menachem Av 5770

Halocho #601 - Is all music forbidden in the 3 weeks?

The period between the fast of 17 Tammuz and the fast of 9 B'Av 3 weeks later is known as Bein Hametzarim, or "The 3 Weeks".

Since the destruction of the Bet Hamikdash (Temple) started on 17 Tammuz with the breaching of the walls, and ended 3 weeks later when it was set alight, this period of 3 weeks has been set aside as a time of mourning.

If one plays a musical instrument for a living, one may continue to do so for non-Jews until Rosh Chodesh Av.

Some have the custom of refraining from meat and wine during the entire 3 weeks, except on Shabbat and Mitzva-meals (like at a Brit Mila).

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 122:1

- Danny
Wednesday, 18 Tamuz 5770

Please daven for a complete recovery for

Chagai Yitzchak ben Pnina - חגי יצחק בן פנינה

Halocho #551 - Mourning during the Omer

During the Omer period the great sage Rabbi Akiva (who lived during and after the destruction of the second Temple) lost almost all of his thousands of Torah students; reducing Torah Scholars to a handful.

As a result, 33 days of the Omer are customarily observed as days of mourning, during which weddings and haircuts are forbidden.

One may get engaged during the Omer and even celebrate with a meal, but dancing and music is not allowed.

The Sandek, Mohel and father of the newborn may take haircuts the day before the Brit.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 120:6 - 9

- Danny
Monday, 5 Iyar 5770, 20th day of the Omer

Halocho # 462 -The Chanukah Menorah in shul

In order to publicize the miracle of Chanuka, the Menora is lit - with the correct Brachot - in the synagogue, between Mincha and Ma'ariv.

The person who lit the Menora in shul has to light again at home, with the correct Brachot.

A mourner should not light the Menora in shul on the first night of Chanuka, since it's inappropriate for him to say "Shehechiyanu" in public. At home the mourner does say "Shehechiyanu" on the first night.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 139:15

- Danny
Wednesday, 15 Kislev 5770

Halocho #391 - Comforting mourners

It's a great Mitzva to comfort mourners - we learn (Breishis 25:11) that Hashem comforted Yitzchak Avinu when Avraham Avinu died.

When comforting mourners one should not initiate a conversation. It's up to the mourner to speak first.

If a mourner hints that the comforters should leave, they are not permitted to stay.

Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 207:1

- Danny Sunday, 26 Av 5769

Halocho #378 - When do the "9 days" end?

We will mourn and fast on 9 B'Av (Thursday) since the Bet Hamikdash was burned to the ground. The fire was ignited on 9 B'Av in the afternoon and burned through the 10th of Av. Therefore the restrictions of "the 9 days" continue until after midday on the 10th of Av (Friday). Normally the custom is to refrain from eating meat and wine, saying Shehechiyanu, listening to music, bathing, doing laundry, shaving and haircuts, until after noon on the 10th of Av. However, in honor of Shabbat, one may bathe, do laundry and have haircuts on Friday morning already. One may make a Se'udat Mitzvah (like a Brit) on Friday morning, with meat and wine. Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 124:20-22 Some Poskim allow one to do laundry on Thursday night. Source: Halachos of the 3 weeks by Rav Shimon Eider zt"l - Danny Monday 6 Av 5769

Please daven for a complete recovery for Tamar bat Naama - תמר בת נעמה