Monday, November 24, 2008

Halocho #211 - Correcting parents

One may not contradict ones parents. One may also not correct them. However, if a parent is doing something against Halacha, one should say to them "Doesn't it say in the Torah such-and-such". This should be said in a questioning manner and not as a rebuke. The parent will then understand how to correct their behavior. Source: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 143:10 - Danny Monday, 26 Marcheshvan 5769

Please daven for a complete recovery for Tamar bat Naama - תמר בת נעמה


  1. This is an interesting one.

    I have to ask - what if parents are verbally abusive. What do you do then?

    thanks for these daily inspirations i do enjoy them!

  2. Even if parents are verbally abusive one has to ignore it.

    The Halocho is that even of they publicly embarrass a child, the child may not react.

    However, the child has no obligation to remain at home, and is allowed to move away.

  3. Then what of our responsibilities to our parents? I don't mind "respecting" them, as much as it really just means holding my tongue, but i do not feel responsible for them, as their behavior to me has been unacceptable. (the short version - my father has been dishonest and has borrowed money under false pretenses)...

  4. At the best of times you are not "responsible" for your parents.

    Halachically even though you have to feed and escort them, they have to pay for it.

    So while you cannot ignore them (unless you move out of town), you don't have to shell out money for this Mitzva, if you don't want to.

    Requesting parents to repay a loan is allowed